We were kind of just babies when we got married. I don't think we really had a clear picture of what we wanted out of life, but we knew we didn't want life without each other.
I am a stubborn person. Too stubborn for my own good much of the time. Remember how I make it sound like I do everything? That's because I TRY to do everything. Sometimes I can manage what I take on but most of the time I fall short in places that I wish I didn't fall short in (i.e. keeping a tidy, clutter-free house and forgetting to do things that I said I was going to do). With all the things I'm juggling, I feel like I'm constantly dropping something and barely keeping my head above water. I've been sick for about 6 weeks now too and the kids are home for summer break, which is wonderful but demanding, and I know I'm not the easiest person to live with. Somehow, Donny finds the patience to handle me though.
He has always been a very hands-on dad. He started changing diapers from day 1 of fatherhood (okay, maybe more like day 3 or 4 because nurses & our moms were changing them the first couple days). Things got off to a little bit of a rough start with our first one and he was always right there to help me when she didn't want to eat for those first few weeks. He has cleaned up a lot of puke and poop too. He has never batted an eye about being on his own with the kids, whether it was for a few hours or a few days. Bodily fluids sometimes make him cringe and/or gag and I know that seeing his kids hurt is particularly hard for him, but he does what needs to be done when it needs to be done.
|baby #1 in 2003|
He teaches the kids things. He encourages them to find and develop new interests and he helps them figure out how to do that. He teaches them to set goals and make a plan to reach them. He teaches them to talk positively to themselves and about themselves, and he just genuinely loves them for who they are. He sees their potential and tries to show them that they are not limited in what they choose to do or accomplish in life. He is a constant, steady positive influence in my life. This is the part where I would normally say something like "I could never do it without him!" but I can't say that. In the last year, we've seen a young family member with young children be faced with that exact situation. It happens, and it can happen to anyone, so we never say never. We've always had a morbid sense of humor about the subject, which I think has been healthy for us because it has allowed us to talk about an awful but important thing. So, all that being said, I am pretty sure I could survive without him, but I sure hope I never have to because he is my partner in all this craziness and he keeps me from losing my mind. I knew I made the right choice by marrying him and nearly 14 years later, I am still seeing every day why that was the right choice. Marrying young brought unique struggles but in a way, we have grown up together and I wouldn't have had it any other way.